Day 2 ― Gevurah of Chesed: Discipline in Loving-kindness
Healthy love must always include an element of discipline and discernment; a degree of distance and respect for another’s boundaries; an assessment of another’s capacity to contain your love. Love must be tempered and directed properly. Ask a parent who, in the name of love, has spoiled a child; or someone who suffocates a spouse with love and doesn’t allow them any personal space.
Rabbi Sha’ul (Paul) wrote to the Yeshua followers in Ephesus (6:4), Fathers, don’t irritate your children and make them resentful; instead, raise them with the Lord’s kind of discipline and guidance.
My Comment: Love is more than hearts and flowers, although that’s a wonderful aspect of romantic love. Love takes discipline, whether it’s loving our children God’s way, loving our spouses in a committed way, or loving our congregations and communities in a concrete and caring way.
Exercise for the day: Help someone on their terms not on yours. Apply yourself to their specific needs even if it takes effort.